This is a very touchy subject but one I have come across on numerous occasions and it's not always easy to talk about let alone create a moment to celebrate in a happy way the loss of a loved one.
Let's start with the time of the loss. Was it recently or some time has passed since the person died? Why this question is important is because how raw the loss is can depend on the individual, so making an honourary moment brings out different emotions in different people. The spouse or immediate family have come to your wedding to celebrate not to commemorate, so keep that in mind when creating the moment.
The subject of creating these types of moments comes when grandparents or parents have passed on, just keep in mind that these moments are sensitive in many different ways to different people so choose a commemorative moment like a song that the person loved BUT not a song played at the person's funeral.
One example of a moment I have seen had nothing to do with the reception at all, except it was mentioned that the bouquet would not be thrown, instead the bride laid the bouquet the next day on the loved one's grave. This moment was then acknowledged with a toast. Later in the evening, I played that loved one's favourite dancing song without a mention, but the family knew what the song meant to them.
Another example I have had to do for a client was to ask everyone onto the dancefloor for a commemorative dance, sort of like a slow dance for couples but it was to be played in memory of those who had passed on.
Just one this I would say in closing, make sure you ask the immediate family of the person who passed if it is ok to have a special moment in their honor.
In today's wedding some couples don't want the cheesy idea of the groom sticking his head up the bride's dress to get the garter, well there is an alternative and it's not as tacky as you might think.
What about a garter presentation? Here's how it works, the groom presents the garter to his mother or someone special in his life. The garter is in his pocket, not on the bride's leg.
This is a great option for a groom who is a little introverted, meaning he is a little humble.
As a wedding DJ with over twenty years of experience, I have suggested this to many couples to have something a little different at their reception.
The best part about this option is it can even be done during the speeches, saving time, leaving more time for dancing later in the evening.
As the title of this blog suggests we're talking about your first dance.
As Anne Murray sang in her beautiful song. Would you be my partner everyy night, this song is truly a real wedding song because it is also a true waltz as the music is in 3/4 timing.
I want to talk about the importance of the first dance song at your wedding reception, the song that will be etched in the memories of your guests for years to come. The choice of song is crucial to making this moment truly memorable. The secret is in the "Lyrics".
Choosing the song is not easy but can be very romantic as it truly will reflect who you both are as a couple and your journey to your wedding day.
Avoid choosing the hip song of the moment because that's what everyone tries to do, be different BUT avoid going down the path of novalty first dances as they can go horribly wrong.
Make your first dance a truly amazing wedding moment.
Below is a link to Anne Murray's song.
So you've planned your wedding to the last detail except for one crucial aspect, your parent's favourite songs.
Your parents are a big part of your wedding celebrations so why choose some songs for them to dance to, maybe a romantic classic hand picked from their own music collections.
So how do you find out their most a favourite song to dance to? Ask them and tell you, DJ, to play it as a special song for both sets of parents to dance to. Being that there will be differences between both sets of parents simply choose a song for your parents and your partner's parents.
Make your parent's part of your celebrations, after all, they are the most important people in your lives because they raised you.
Getting a quote from a wedding supplier is only a small portion of what you should get from a supplier, getting more information is much more important.
Here at Nick Pollock Events, we're proud to say we offer the option of getting an instant quote but it's much more important for you to arrange a meeting time with Nick to find out more information and ask questions about the service we provide.
Do you ask for assistance in a retail store? Of course, you do then why just get a price from an entertainer? Because that's what is the status quo, don't be like everyone be unique
We provide a service, not a product.
It's a sad fact that top 40 music is fast becoming less popular, the reason I believe has come to a surge in people buying vinyl records.
People are now turning back to physical forms of music purchasing such as records and CDs, part of this could be that people sick of the low quality that electronic music downloads provide. With many popular music downloads like iTunes and Google Play only providing 256 to 320kps quality, only a select few lesser known sites provide lossless audio. I believe this is why people are going back to their local music store to purchase music again.
The secondhand music selling industry is booming as people find that older music has a better sound and feel and thus why many new artists are putting their music for sale on vinyl and cd.
Another rise in the music selling sector has been a website called Discogs, it's like eBay but it's for music enthusiasts, take a look at www.discogs.com
Take an hours or so out of your time and visit your local music store.
Most people focus on things other than entertainment at their celebration and they discover during the course of the party that the entertainment takes centre stage over things such as decorations, and food. The reason this occurs is entertainment has some emotional feelings attached because the activities created by the entertainer or a person making a speech are created to maximize the impact of a moment.
A great example of this is when a person selected to do a speech makes a routine of forgetting to take their speech to the lectern, At a wedding I was entertaining at the weekend such a moment to place, the decision that the couple did was to select a videographer to capture their special day, the speech routine mentioned above is now captured on film forever and will be a moment in history for the family to look back on in years to come, choosing who you get to do a speech is crucial to such a moment be the best it can be.
Another memorable point at the reception was "The Shoe Game" this was something I had direct involvement with and this was again captured on film. So as you can see having "Quality" entertainment and videography is a major advantage at your wedding.
I must credit the Videographer, Paul Demunk for "Vision By Demunk" http://www.visionbydemunk.com/Home.html
Make your wedding memorable for years to come with memories made from moments.
What is your perception of a "Rustic" wedding?
I see a lot of couple getting caught up in the idealism of a rustic wedding but their perception changes when they find out what a real rustic wedding is.
A rustic wedding is one that is unsophisticated and is located in a country or rural setting, I've seen many people who like the idea of a "Rustic" wedding but only choose elements to give the impression that it's a rustic event.
Simply having your wedding in a lavish hotel with rustic trimmings really isn't a truly rustic wedding.
One particular venue in my market of Ballarat that I define as truly rustic is Donegan's Farm, located between Wallace and Gordon. Below is a link to their website.
Why I have posted this link is because it is a venue located on real farm setting because rustic actually means "From the country".
So when you choose to have a rustic wedding make sure you choose a location that suits the type of wedding you want, this means booking your venue early.
Just remember that rustic isn't white table clothes and chair covers, it's wooden furniture and simplicity also a little rough around the edges.
I hope this article will help you understand the true meaning of what it is to have a "Rustic" wedding.
Let's make this an easy question to answer.
On average I spend at least 20 hours preparing and entertaining at any function, sometimes I spend as much as 30 hours working towards achieving my client's entertainment requirements, this is a good reason that I charge a reasonable amount for my services.
The planning meetings I have with my clients can take me to plan and conduct the meeting as much as 3 hours per meeting, this is time spent away from my family, this is the time I need to charge for. The meetings are in most cases during the evening and on weekends.
When you make an inquiry from any type of service based business consider the time they spend before your event as well as the time spend at your event.
The best way to find out the best service providers for your event is to meet them before you book.
I hope this helps you make an informed decision for your next celebration.
Over my twenty plus years of doing DJ entertainment I've sadly come across people who have said a lie in regards to the event they are having to get a cheaper price, I've never booked these inquiries, here is why. Have you ever lied to someone and they later found out that you lied to them? It's not very nice, is it.
Telling a supplier the wrong type of event could lead to you not getting the supplier you want as they may choose not to take you as a client.
The hours spent by a DJ for example for Wedding or Corporate Function will be greater than the planning involved in planning a party, the reason is there are lots of formal moments scheduled throughout the event that has to either be scripted or planned with other suppliers and venue staff. These are planned in advance, not on the spur of the moment.
Don't lie, be honest and you'll be rewarded with better service