This is a very touchy subject but one I have come across on numerous occasions and it's not always easy to talk about let alone create a moment to celebrate in a happy way the loss of a loved one.
Let's start with the time of the loss. Was it recently or some time has passed since the person died? Why this question is important is because how raw the loss is can depend on the individual, so making an honourary moment brings out different emotions in different people. The spouse or immediate family have come to your wedding to celebrate not to commemorate, so keep that in mind when creating the moment.
The subject of creating these types of moments comes when grandparents or parents have passed on, just keep in mind that these moments are sensitive in many different ways to different people so choose a commemorative moment like a song that the person loved BUT not a song played at the person's funeral.
One example of a moment I have seen had nothing to do with the reception at all, except it was mentioned that the bouquet would not be thrown, instead the bride laid the bouquet the next day on the loved one's grave. This moment was then acknowledged with a toast. Later in the evening, I played that loved one's favourite dancing song without a mention, but the family knew what the song meant to them.
Another example I have had to do for a client was to ask everyone onto the dancefloor for a commemorative dance, sort of like a slow dance for couples but it was to be played in memory of those who had passed on.
Just one this I would say in closing, make sure you ask the immediate family of the person who passed if it is ok to have a special moment in their honor.
In today's wedding some couples don't want the cheesy idea of the groom sticking his head up the bride's dress to get the garter, well there is an alternative and it's not as tacky as you might think.
What about a garter presentation? Here's how it works, the groom presents the garter to his mother or someone special in his life. The garter is in his pocket, not on the bride's leg.
This is a great option for a groom who is a little introverted, meaning he is a little humble.
As a wedding DJ with over twenty years of experience, I have suggested this to many couples to have something a little different at their reception.
The best part about this option is it can even be done during the speeches, saving time, leaving more time for dancing later in the evening.
As the title of this blog suggests we're talking about your first dance.
As Anne Murray sang in her beautiful song. Would you be my partner everyy night, this song is truly a real wedding song because it is also a true waltz as the music is in 3/4 timing.
I want to talk about the importance of the first dance song at your wedding reception, the song that will be etched in the memories of your guests for years to come. The choice of song is crucial to making this moment truly memorable. The secret is in the "Lyrics".
Choosing the song is not easy but can be very romantic as it truly will reflect who you both are as a couple and your journey to your wedding day.
Avoid choosing the hip song of the moment because that's what everyone tries to do, be different BUT avoid going down the path of novalty first dances as they can go horribly wrong.
Make your first dance a truly amazing wedding moment.
Below is a link to Anne Murray's song.
So you've planned your wedding to the last detail except for one crucial aspect, your parent's favourite songs.
Your parents are a big part of your wedding celebrations so why choose some songs for them to dance to, maybe a romantic classic hand picked from their own music collections.
So how do you find out their most a favourite song to dance to? Ask them and tell you, DJ, to play it as a special song for both sets of parents to dance to. Being that there will be differences between both sets of parents simply choose a song for your parents and your partner's parents.
Make your parent's part of your celebrations, after all, they are the most important people in your lives because they raised you.
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